The Demands of Pain

Shakespeare once wrote,”The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.” (Julius Caesar, I,ii,140-141) The human condition that Shakespeare refers to is something we face every second of every day. It prepares us for when those big moments of pain or joy come. They shape us into who we can become. “The Fault in Our Stars”  quoted this and  recently has gotten my wheels turning. There is so much truth in this statement. The human condition is where we all have flaws. It’s what keeps us from doing everything perfectly. It’s what demands us to try a little harder each day. The human condition is what inflicts pain upon us every day–although, the degree of pain varies each day.

Pain, or the human condition, demands to be felt.

We’ve seen Hazel and Gus deal with their pain until the bitter end. We’ve all seen loved-ones do the same thing and each of us have delt with some type of pain at one point.  But with those demands so much joy comes from it. The joy of discovering what life is really about. The joy of loving someone deeply, being a parent, discovering something new, and more! All of the sweet experiences that eventually come are a result from pain and vise versa when it the bitter experiences are a result from joy. But it doesn’t just stop there. Pain has to be satisfied somehow. It has to stop at some point.

What satisfies the pain?

When can you stop feeling it?

What makes it go from a 9 to 3?

These are some of the questions that I’ve asked myself so many times. But every time I’ve asked these, I’ve only come up with one answer to each of these. The answer: Time (and I mean lots and lots of it).  Time is what heals all wounds. Sometimes it takes four days. Sometimes it takes five years. It just depends on how deep it goes. I’m finding that as I’ve gotten older that pain never really goes away. It’s always there but sometimes it’s quieter than other times. Pain demands to be felt so we can grow from it. It stings to remind us not to mess up again like that. It stings to remind us how much we love someone. But more than that, pain conditions us to become resilient and to find solutions to our problems. And if anything, that is what defines us the most.




What are your thoughts on pain?



4 thoughts on “The Demands of Pain

  1. Pain is hard to bear. I understand there is growth in the midst of the pain but at times I think the pain is too much! Let give you an example in the area of relationships. I have liked so many people at one time or the other but it hasn’t worked out and as I write this there is someone I like. I just found out I might have made a mistake once again and I am going to God and saying why? Is the solution to not love? Impossible option right. So some pain is unexplainable. I hope I am making sense…..haha
    It is just hard to articulate what is in my heart right now. I have gone through all this pain but nothing seems to have changed. When I like someone, something happens for it not to work! And that is just one area of my life!!!!!
    Those are my thoughts about pain. I am still trying to figure out why God allows us to go through it!

    I hope that all makes sense……



    1. That does make sense, Rolain. I think the reason that some pain is unbearable at times is so we can turn to God and trust in Him. I think that’s part of the reason why we’re all here on Earth–to experience as much as we can and to really build our relationship with God. I take great comfort in knowing that God is literally my (and yours and everyone else’s) loving Heavenly Father and that He will never abandon any of us. Sometimes it may feel like He has but I know that He never does. There have been so many times in my life when it seems like nothing is going to change and that the pain will just stay there forever but because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ it’s lightened and become bareable. Does that make sense?


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