Shakespeare once wrote,”The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.” (Julius Caesar, I,ii,140-141) The human condition that Shakespeare refers to is something we face every second of every day. It prepares us for when those big moments of pain or joy come. They shape us into who we can become. “The Fault in Our Stars” quoted this and recently has gotten my wheels turning. There is so much truth in this statement. The human condition is where we all have flaws. It’s what keeps us from doing everything perfectly. It’s what demands us to try a little harder each day. The human condition is what inflicts pain upon us every day–although, the degree of pain varies each day.
Pain, or the human condition, demands to be felt.
We’ve seen Hazel and Gus deal with their pain until the bitter end. We’ve all seen loved-ones do the same thing and each of us have delt with some type of pain at one point. But with those demands so much joy comes from it. The joy of discovering what life is really about. The joy of loving someone deeply, being a parent, discovering something new, and more! All of the sweet experiences that eventually come are a result from pain and vise versa when it the bitter experiences are a result from joy. But it doesn’t just stop there. Pain has to be satisfied somehow. It has to stop at some point.
What satisfies the pain?
When can you stop feeling it?
What makes it go from a 9 to 3?
These are some of the questions that I’ve asked myself so many times. But every time I’ve asked these, I’ve only come up with one answer to each of these. The answer: Time (and I mean lots and lots of it). Time is what heals all wounds. Sometimes it takes four days. Sometimes it takes five years. It just depends on how deep it goes. I’m finding that as I’ve gotten older that pain never really goes away. It’s always there but sometimes it’s quieter than other times. Pain demands to be felt so we can grow from it. It stings to remind us not to mess up again like that. It stings to remind us how much we love someone. But more than that, pain conditions us to become resilient and to find solutions to our problems. And if anything, that is what defines us the most.
What are your thoughts on pain?