After our first date, I was wasn’t 100% sold on going on a second date with Dale. At the time, I had been “ghosted” (or whatever you want to call it when said person of interest drops off the face of the planet) by so many guys at this point that I was half-expecting to get stood up at this date (NOTE: I later found out that Dale was half-expecting this as well from all of his bad online dating experiences). I had no idea that I would end up being the one who would have to reschedule it because of a mishap at work.
We made plans to meet up in Lehi again for the next Saturday. Keep in mind, I had just started a new job. This job (which I’m still at) requires me to be on-call 24/7 because I’m a program manger for a group home that provides care for adults with disabilities. I also manage a small handful of staff and am responsible for the scheduling, paperwork (medical, shift notes, ect.), and to respond to any necessary problems that come up in the group home. Little did I know that I would be called-in because my staff ended up walking out from the job. It was a bit of a nightmare to say the least.
With the holidays around the corner, and trying to keep my new schedule straight I was a bit of a wreck trying to figure out how to balance everything. I was so excited to meet up with Dale. We had planned on meeting in Lehi to go to the Puppy Barn in Saratoga Springs, UT. Dale didn’t know this but I actually really hate dogs. When I was a kid, I got bit on the face by a golden retriever (ironic, I know!) and haven’t liked dogs since. To this day, I still get super nervous around dogs. I wasn’t about to tell Dale that I was terrified of dogs since he was nice enough to ask me out again. Besides, I was pretty convinced that I was going to be stood up.
Anyway, Saturday arrived and I was looking forward to going out with Dale. However, my staff didn’t show up for her shift (Note: If no one shows up or calls in and I can’t find someone to work the shift I get to work it.) As my luck would have it, I couldn’t find someone to cover her Saturday night shift and bailed on Dale at the last second.
Bailing on our second date wasn’t the kind of impression I wanted to leave. I really liked him. I was determined to make it up to Dale and rescheduled with him for the following Tuesday. Meanwhile, Dale was convinced that I was just standing him up and giving him some lame excuse that I couldn’t go on a second date with him. But when he got my text asking him if we could reschedule for Tuesday, somehow the stars aligned and he agreed to it. We ended up changing our second date plans and decided to go to Temple Square to see the lights. I met Dale at the Cafe Rio in Jordan Landing since I was getting off of work late. After eating a yummy dinner at Cafe Rio, h drove us to Temple Square and parked in the City Creek parking lot. Yes, where we parked is significant to the story.
It was freezing that night. I was so glad that we stopped inside to get some hot chocolate. We walked around Temple Square for a few hours. The lights were beautiful. Going to Temple Square in Salt Lake City is one of my favorite traditions to do every year.
While we were walking around, Dale and I talked, and talked, and talked, and talked. It was so easy to just talk with him, and to really get to know him. I knew that night that I could pursue something with Dale. His genuine personality, kindness, and sense of humor all stole my heart that night. Not to mention that when we went inside the visitor’s center and saw the huge statute of Jesus Christ I had a feeling that I was going to end up marrying him. That thought terrified me especially since that was our SECOND date.
The entire night, I kept my hand out of my coat pocket to hopefully send the signal to Dale to hold my hand. He did not pick up on it whatsoever. *face palm* In Dale’s words, he was “too scared” to hold my hand. For the record, I don’t blame him because it was just a second date.
We both were freezing so we ended up going inside of the Joseph Smith building and took a picture in front of the GIANT Christmas tree. Isn’t it super pretty?!Anyway, from there since it was freezing and getting late, we slowly started walking back to the car. Dale had parked far enough away that we still had time to enjoy each other’s company.
As we were walking, we decided to cut through the City Creek shopping mall. Now, if you’ve never been there, City Creek is a high-end mall that is super cool. So, definitely put that on your places to see in Utah list if you haven’t been. As we were walking through the mall, Dale wanted to sit on a bench to keep talking. While we were sitting there, Dale, being the go-getter that he is, was pretty straight-forward with me.
He said something along the lines of, “Sam, I think you’re really awesome and I really like you. I would like to keep seeing you. The only problem is I’m going to California for the holidays and won’t be back for a few weeks. Can we go on another date before I go?”
I was shocked. I didn’t realize that he was as interested in me as I was in him. I was so excited! I asked Dale when he was leaving and when he said that he was going on Friday, I somehow agreed to going on a third date with him two days later.
To be continued.
XO Sam (Dale too . . . even though Sam wrote this post)